For me, the distracting activities always been walking the dog, rambling in the woods and backyard astronomy. From now until autumn, there is also gardening and bird watching. These activities never fail to uplift me at difficult times, and I am thankful for them.
I’m just reading a (to me) absolutely astonishing book called The Courage to be Disliked - Kishimi and Koga, 2013. It examines Adlerian theories alongside Greek philosophy.
On unhappiness caused not by past trauma but the refusal to change protective thoughts and habits that are no longer relevant. I’d never thought of it this way. Fascinating.
I very much like your comment, Emily! I'm not familiar with The Courage to be Disliked but the premise sounds intriguing.
And I absolutely agree that our suffering is less about past trauma than about our continuing past thoughts and habits that while once made sense are no longer relevant. I'll look for the book.
Work is a distracting activity for me and always has been. Like any therapy I think it takes time and practice to integrate these "tools" ( if that is an appropriate word to use in DBT).
In some ways I find that as I age I am not as motivated to work on change, perhaps itu might be because I have less energy or maybe because I am less hopeful that after all these years I can change. Does anyone else feel like this?
I have friends who were anxious about retirement, fearful that they didn't have anything else to fall back on when life became stressful.
Yes, those tools/skills do take a lot of practice to begin to seem useful!
And finally, the older I become, the more I feel the loss of energy and motivation to create change both in myself and in the world. I've said this before (I think)...as much as I have an intellectual interest in Jungian ideas, I am tired of delving into myself. I'm about as 'done' as I'm interested in becoming.
For me, the distracting activities always been walking the dog, rambling in the woods and backyard astronomy. From now until autumn, there is also gardening and bird watching. These activities never fail to uplift me at difficult times, and I am thankful for them.
I feel the same way and view them as making life worth living.
I’m just reading a (to me) absolutely astonishing book called The Courage to be Disliked - Kishimi and Koga, 2013. It examines Adlerian theories alongside Greek philosophy.
On unhappiness caused not by past trauma but the refusal to change protective thoughts and habits that are no longer relevant. I’d never thought of it this way. Fascinating.
I very much like your comment, Emily! I'm not familiar with The Courage to be Disliked but the premise sounds intriguing.
And I absolutely agree that our suffering is less about past trauma than about our continuing past thoughts and habits that while once made sense are no longer relevant. I'll look for the book.
Work is a distracting activity for me and always has been. Like any therapy I think it takes time and practice to integrate these "tools" ( if that is an appropriate word to use in DBT).
In some ways I find that as I age I am not as motivated to work on change, perhaps itu might be because I have less energy or maybe because I am less hopeful that after all these years I can change. Does anyone else feel like this?
I have friends who were anxious about retirement, fearful that they didn't have anything else to fall back on when life became stressful.
Yes, those tools/skills do take a lot of practice to begin to seem useful!
And finally, the older I become, the more I feel the loss of energy and motivation to create change both in myself and in the world. I've said this before (I think)...as much as I have an intellectual interest in Jungian ideas, I am tired of delving into myself. I'm about as 'done' as I'm interested in becoming.